Sunday, 6 January 2008

Love Love Love

No, love is not in the air for me, but I've been thinking about it these days. Probably because I've seen two soppy movies ("My Blueberry nights" and "the Notebook"). I won't give any spoilers here, but both are about the emotional connection that can exist between two people (aka love).

I have been in love twice in my life, which I should probably be thankful for, as some people spend a life time looking for something like that with no success. Both stories ended very painfully, in moments where you wish you never had a heart at all, that could neither feel happiness, love or pain. But after time does its healing thing you realise that it's all part of life and no one ever said it would be easy - but at least it's not boring.

I am still in a state of confusion though, as I am not sure wether to believe what the movies tell us about there being a possibility for a "Happily Ever After" scenario. Is it possible to find someone who is a real soul mate, and for these feelings not to have a shelflife? Are we all made for living our life with the same person, or are we supposed to experience cycles and move on from person to person (contrary to what the traditional institutions of marriage and family make us believe?). I don't know many couples among an older age group that reflects a very positive image about this. No one in my family is having a Happily Ever After (actually there are not many couples left at all) and in the other families I see sometimes it feels more like people just got used to being with each other (and have their finances and logistics planned all around it). It does sound cynical, I know.

Whatever happens, I do hope to get kissed one day in the same way that Nora Jones does in "My Blueberry Nights". And even better if it could be by Jude Law in person, pretty-please-thank-you-very-much.

3 comments:

CresceNet said...
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Cinn said...

Those are some good points - I never thought about maybe we're made to go through cycles and learn through love and loss.

P.S. I've never even heard of The Blueberry Nights. I'll have to look that one up.

Evie said...

Maybe it's not out yet in the US.. As it's Norah Jones' film debut there has been a lot of hype about it. Also it's the first Engligh langugage movie of Won Kar Wai, a Chinese film director, who shot to fame with "In the mood for love". Recommended!